Reading. Writing. Arithmetic. These are the basic academic skills.
There are also three R’s that are important to our leadership abilities: Respect, Responsibility and Resourcefulness.
I would like to give credit to the person who initiated this phrase, but when I did a search for these 3R’s on the educational research data base (ERIC), I received over 59,000 matches.
About 15 years ago I first came across the concept of the 3 R’s of leadership and began using them with my elementary aged students.
Principles control the consequences of our choices. This was a concept I wanted my students to understand through direct experience. The immediacy of using the 3R’s was evident as students went through their decision making process. Before acting, our students were encouraged to ask themselves three questions: Am I acting respectfully? Am I responding with ability to the situation? Have I thought of all my resources?
The consequences of using or disregarding the principles of the 3R’s became evident to these elementary aged students. The 3R questions also gave them some language to discuss challenges and the effects of different choices with each other and with their teachers. Some of the outcomes we discovered together follow:
Respect. The consequences of respecting yourself are that you like yourself and trust yourself to be a person of integrity. Not respecting yourself gives you the opposite consequence. Respecting others and their property gives you their trust and mutual respect.
Responsibility. Responding with ability gives you the confidence to know that you tried the best you knew how. It also helps you examine how you might have done things differently and how you might want to react in the future. The consequences also allow reflection on skills you might want to develop. Disregarding your responsibilities can put yourself and others in a mess fast.
Resourcefulness. The consequence of being resourceful is that you can be creative and think outside the box and do things in a way that can be uniquely yours. Otherwise, you might sit around all day and say “I can’t do that because…”
The students in my classroom of six to nine-year-olds loved putting on plays. We had a book of one-act plays that the students enjoyed practicing and performing. When we first started with our plays, we ran into difficulties with students dropping out before the play was performed, not learning their lines, or complaining that the props or costumes were not right.
A new staff member introduced the concept of having a performance contract that stated the practice times, performance date and time, and the responsibilities of each person in the play. The contract idea was a stroke of genius for highlighting consequences of using, or not using, respect, responsibility and resourcefulness. The plays with the contract, besides encouraging reading, writing, and dramatic skills, forced the students to put the principles of the 3R’s to use.
Not getting along with another cast member? Use the 3R’s. Someone not learning his or her lines? “Are you responding with ability?” I’d hear them ask each other. Need a mountain for a prop? How about the refrigerator box in the garage, draping a sheet from the ceiling, or painting on a large window? “That’s being resourceful,” the students said.
We had a few shows that never made it to performance due to more than one participant’s disregarding the 3R’s. Disregard respectfulness, and no one wants to work with you. Disregard responsibility, then people don’t know their lines and props or costumes aren’t prepared. Disregard resourcefulness leaving a “can do” attitude on the table, then working on the play is not fun and creativity doesn’t get a chance to emerge.
Principles control the consequences of our choices. Using the 3R’s of respect, responsibility and resourcefulness can teach our children the results of their decisions and actions.
Read more from Maren Schmidt:
The best gift we can give our children
Montessori teachers credo: to be a help to life
Ten little words that make all the difference
Written by Blue Ribbon News special contributor Maren Schmidt, Kids Talk TM deals with childhood development issues. Schmidt founded a Montessori school and holds a Masters of Education from Loyola College in Maryland. She has more than 25 years experience working with children and holds teaching credentials from the Association Montessori Internationale. She is author of Building Cathedrals Not Walls: Essays for Parents and Teachers. Contact her at maren@kidstalknews.com or visit MarenSchmidt.com. Copyright 2011.
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