Ten little words that make all the difference

As soon as my southern drawl is detected, I am usually greeted with something like, ”Aren’t you from the South?  Southerners are so polite.”  Folks from all over the world marvel at our use of “yes, ma’am” and “no, sir”.  My imagination is not large enough to consider growing up and not saying “yes, ma’am”.  […]

Children ‘ain’t misbehavin’

Children don’t misbehave, says Dr. Thomas Gordon, author of the best selling book, Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T). Wait a second, you say.  Whoa!  Everywhere you look there are children misbehaving. Dr. Gordon says that children’s actions are judged as misbehaviors when those behaviors come into conflict with the desires of parents and other adults.  What […]

Giving thanks to parents for being the adult

“Humans would degenerate without the child to help him rise.  If the adult does not waken little by little, a hard crust will form around him and make him insensible.” ~ Dr. Maria Montessori, The Secret of Childhood, page 106 Being in the city is interesting, to say the least.  Surrounded by world-class restaurants with […]

How to develop concentration, independence in children

“Concentration and distractibility are particular sensitive indicators of a variety of conditions affecting children.  Highly concentrated activity suggests that the child’s finding satisfaction and challenge in a task.  Distractibility suggests trouble of some kind, social, psychological or whatnot.”  –Jerome Bruner, Under Five in Britain Zach began the 18th hole of miniature golf.  Twelve-year-old Zach was […]

Extend an olive branch for children’s sake

The troubling nature of censorship is clearer when it falls on the very young.  A certain kind of silence, that which comes from holding back the truth, is abusive itself to the child. The soul has a natural movement toward knowledge, so that not to know can be to despair.  In the paucity of explanation […]

ADHD: Teach children to pay attention, instead of paying for drugs

Attention deficit to attention abundance Nine million prescriptions were written last year in the United States for school aged children for Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD).  In 1975 roughly 150,000 children were taking Ritalin.  In 2003, the latest figures available, about 6 million American children took Ritalin. Drugging children to get them to behave seems […]

Know the three C’s of motivation

“The manager’s job, then, is not to motivate people to get them to achieve; instead, the manager should provide opportunities for people to achieve so they will become motivated.” – Frederick Herzberg    Charlie walked over with the teaching clock.  “I’ve learned to tell time.  Do any time and I can tell you.” Five-year-old Charlie sat […]