The heart of relationships: effective communication

June 25, 2014- To know who our children really are, we need to observe our children at work and play.  J Krishnamurti, the Indian philosopher, wrote that the highest form of human intelligence is observing without evaluating. The more I observe the more I understand Krishnamurti.  Observation and evaluation serve us best as separate activities.  […]

Seven alternatives to punishment

Six-year old Bobby walks into the kitchen from playing soccer.  Bobby’s dad, Tom, had asked Bobby to take off his muddy shoes before entering the house.  Red Georgia mud dotted the new hallway and den carpet.  When Tom sees the footprints, he is furious about the mess and that Bobby had disobeyed him.   “Bobby,” Tom […]